Inactivity Timeout

This post was originally published in March of 2015 as part of a series called 500 Words To Save The World. Given the political maelstrom in which we find ourselves in 2016, it struck me as worth re-issuing. As the Irish statesman Edmund Burke aptly said,

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

Do whatever you must to avoid being one fitting his description.

One day I received an email from my library informing me that my card was about to expire, however if I had used it within the last year it would automatically be renewed, no further action necessary. By simply using something, I was permitted to keep using it. […]


Only In My Dreams

Friday morning as I was making breakfast for my kids, my daughter was doing her daily “flip around” the major cable new channels.

My daughter Charlotte may be the best-informed sixteen-year-old in America. She makes a point of watching all the different news channels with their respective “leanings,” so she can get a clear picture of what each side is saying about the other. She does not take any one source of information on faith but instead requires multiple points of reference before deciding her own truth.

Back when there were still more than a dozen candidates for president, she read all of their most recent books… all of them. However, what I’m going to talk about today has nothing to do with politics. […]


Every Drop

I am writing this on day seven of an eight-day vacation with my bride of seventeen-plus years, and my three sons, aged 15, 14 and 12. We have enjoyed amazing adventures and wonderful family moments, but as is the case in all families… there are limits to how much togetherness one can truly tolerate. Lucky for us this vacation appears to be just the right length.

From the day they are born, all children test boundaries. When our first child was born in 2000, my Father (who at that point had 30+ years of experience as a pediatrician) offered us only one piece of parenting advice. Holding our day-old daughter in his arms, he looked up thoughtfully and said,

“Make no mistake about it… you start raising your teenagers, today.”

As our oldest grew, and we added to our family at a brisk pace, and the sage words of my Father echoed in my ears every time I was tempted to give in to the boundary testing antics of our four children. […]


How Pokémon Go Can Win The White House

As I sit and watch the political ping-pong, zing across the inter-webs like so many Sneetches, I have done my level best to stay out of the fray. If the experience of my forty-seven years has taught me anything, it is that another’s point of view has never been swayed by a single pithy comment, image of Willy Wonka or rapier-like jab.


This has never been an effective persuasion tool.

No matter how smart you think you are, and no matter how clever your delivery; odds are at least one-third of the universe thinks you (and your opinions) are equivalent to the hind-end of some slovenly livestock. […]


For The Love Of Fred

I have written before about my elementary school, but I will recap with a single sentence. It was a freaky 1960s experiment where all the rooms were shaped liked hexagons and the classrooms had no walls.

One of the things I remember vividly from my years at Harris Hill Elementary, was a movie we watched called, For The Love Of Fred. For this film to have burned itself so clearly into my mind, it must have been shown with great frequency. Either that, or my unofficial position as school’s “projector whisperer” exposed me to more viewings than most. […]


A Few Things Everyone Should Know About: Ties

Ties, so simple yet so misunderstood.

Welcome to the latest episode of “A Few Things Every Man Should Know About:” Every week this series will cover 3-4 interesting facts on a single topic.

This week we’re talking about ties.

No matter what you think you know – take a few minutes and have a look, you just might learn something. Even if you don’t, you’ll at least confirm that you already know a lot, which is always good for the ego. In the comments section, tell us topics you’d like to see covered. If you have info to add, please share that too.

This series is meant to start conversations, not just be a pile of facts

So, again this week we talk about Ties. Believe it or not, you could look even better than you already do. Watch, listen & learn!



A Few Things Everyone Should Know About: Meat

Welcome to the latest episode of A Few Things Everyone Should Know About. This week we’re talking about… meat.

Every week this series will cover 3-to-4 interesting facts on a single topic.No matter what you think you know – take a few minutes and have a look, you just might learn something.

Even if you don’t, you’ll at least confirm that you already know a lot, which is always good for the ego.In the comments section, tell us topics you’d like to see covered. If you have info to add, please share that too.

This series is meant to start conversations, not just be a pile of facts

This week we talk about meat. So, grab a fork and prepare to fire up the grill. We look forward to seeing you back here next week. And be sure and download the cheat sheet beneath the video. […]


A Few Things Everyone Should Know About: Cars

Two months ago, I began writing for a very popular website called The Good Men Project. My submissions have met with some success, but with their millions of readers, I was hoping for a little more traction.

I took some time, and did a little soul searching on how I could… do what I do, but at the same time rise above the noise. As is my custom, I came up with a clever approach and below you can see the result.

Since the website on which these pieces are initially published is The Good MEN Project, the series titles are man focused, but the information is useful for men, women, and everything in between. […]

White Guy Wrap

Right after college I moved back home to save money so I could move to New York City. The plan was to pursue a career in acting/directing/writing, and to do that I would need some cash in the bank. By December of 1991, I had enough socked away. I found an apartment on the Upper East Side of Manhattan and I prepared to move.

There is a store in Rochester, NY called The Boxman. As you might assume they sell boxes; new boxes, used boxes, packing materials, tape and anything you might need to go with your boxes. […]


For The Love Of Eggplant

As regular readers of this blog are aware, I like to cook. I do the vast majority of the cooking for our family and I have even been known to cater a party for more than 100 people from time to time.

Keeping the bellies of four teenagers full is no small task.

Not a day goes by without someone crying, “There is nothing to eat in this house!”

This is often within minutes of a full meal ending. I just walk away, finally understanding how Sisyphus felt. […]

Never Buy Expensive Cables (or cheap ones)

I had an experience with my wife’s car the other day that reminded me about this piece from 2014. I have updated the information and prices to be current for 2016. The bottom line (as I state below) is… it is ALWAYS the cable.

In 2016, you can walk into any Best Buy (or other similar store), and buy a 35”, HD, LCD, LED, Widescreen, Flat Panel television for less than $200. (The one above is only $199.) It hangs on your wall and weighs sixteen pounds. In 1996, I paid $2,000 for 35”, Square, Tube, Low-definition television that weighed more than 200 pounds. This is an amazing example of technological advancement, and price reduction, in fewer than two decades, especially when you consider that the $2,000 spent in 1996 has a 2014 value equivalent of $2,932. (you can look up that kind of thing HERE) […]


Teacher Appreciation Day

For this post, I decided to try something new. Although I have included all the words below, this post is presented primarily as a video. So, you can choose to read, but I hope you’ll watch the video and tell me what you think. I know it’s a little rough for a first effort, but I promise to improve as I go along. My plan is to do at least one video a month. Enjoy, and as always, your feedback is welcome and appreciated. […]


The Terrible Twos

Yesterday my blog turned two. As I thought about the meaning of such an event, I was reminded of each of my children entering their respective third years of life.

Thoughts of the “terrible twos” made me both smile and cringe, but the more I mused on the similarities between what I have been doing and the growth of a child, the more excited I became about the year ahead. […]


A Special Kind Of Radio

The other day our 90-day family trial of Apple Music ended. My children were disappointed, as I would not be paying the $15/month to keep it alive. In this age of “small monthly payments” one has to draw the line somewhere.

I’ll be honest I liked it too. From the very beginning I enjoyed having access to nearly every song I could ever want to push into my headphones. I liked it so much I wrote about it in a post on November 30, called Remix.

As sad as we all were to see Apple Music go the way of the cassette tape (at least in our family), the other options we have are so numerous, the loss will ultimately be nary a blip on the musical radar of life. […]


Take A Chance, Save Some Cash

In recent weeks I have written about some heavy subjects, so today we’re going to have a little fun, and save some serious money, all while getting things done.

Growing up, my father was a regular reader of Consumer Reports magazine. He was a firm believer in the philosophy of the well-informed consumer. Many an appliance and car salesman would tremble when my Dad pulled the rolled-up issue of CR from his back pocket to close the deal. This level of being informed was more difficult before the Internet, but it taught me about the power of information when making purchasing decisions. […]